Me: Hmm… I sense a bit of a bias here. You didn’t post anything that says: “Happy mother’s day to all the fathers doing it all!” on the 12th of May. There are plenty of single parents of either gender doing what they can. This just seems a tad self-serving.
Amanda LaValley: Seriously you had to take that from me dude… stfu.
Me: Take father’s day from you? Look… I’m not questioning how proficient you are as a parent. Quite frankly, it’s not even my place to make that assessment; I’ve never been a parent nor do I ever plan to be. But you can’t deny the fact that today, specifically, you are trying to bask in someone else’s spotlight. And I certainly haven’t seen you dedicate mother’s day to all the single fathers out there, which would have only been fair, since you’re obviously using their special day to draw attention to yourself.
Amanda LaValley: m not drawing any attention to myself. Im not saying I deserve any special “commendation” as you put it. All I was trying to do was post a picture and be silently proud to myself about how far I have come and what a wonderful human being I am raising. So leave it alone, its obviously a touchy subject and you have have no intention of ever being a parent and therefore have no place or reason to comment or speculate. point and match goodnight.
Me: My lack of personal experience as a parent indeed doesn’t qualify me to comment on the way that you raise your child, nor the pride that you take in doing so–which was your point–but it has no bearing on me highlighting the misplaced entitlement in wishing mothers a happy father’s day without ever wishing fathers a happy mother’s day, which remains an unmatched point. Sleep tight.
Amanda LaValley: Funny thing about being a woman you get stuck with the baby. If I knew any single fathers I would jump right up and shake their hand but to this day for the life of me I just cant seem to find any. So you can sit behind your computer and pass judgment and say I should do this and I should do that and say whatever you think I should say but in the end I simply do not give a fuck or a right nut about it or men as it comes to parenting. Which I know makes me “bias” but try getting pregnant and having the “Man” or “father” just leave and having a father yourself who just never really cared or did anything fatherly for you. Im on the mom team and Im also done with this conversation. Next time you wanna say something smart ass to me be mindful to remember that fine line you teeter totter on. One side intelligent other side DOUCHE BAG! Pick your debates with me selectively cuz now Im just pissed the fuck off that you kind of “rained on my parade” asshole.
Me: You don’t have to have a personal relationship with a member of a certain group to realize that the group exists. As it stands there are nearly two million single fathers in America. Let them have their day. You’ve had yours on the 12th of May; this isn’t even your parade for anyone to rain on. But if this simple assertion makes me a douche bag, then you’re only reinforcing the notion that this is going to be as much about you as it is about any father out there.